Daughters in Islam

Daughter are the blessing of Almighty .Before Islam was spread throughout the Arab world, people used to think it was a curse to have a daughter. They used to bury them alive and burn them. It was not just daughters that were humiliated, females did not have a good status at all. They were considered inferior creatures and they were mistreated. When Islam came, it brought revival throughout the Arab world. Females got a status in not just the society but in inheritance too. They came under the protection of their fathers, brothers, and husbands.
Although Islam has brought a great revival but still females, especially daughters become a victim of prejudice. However, according to Islam, daughters are considered to be a Rahmat from Allah. Daughters are considered to be a great blessing of Allah and He SWT has promised that whoever takes the responsibility of bringing them up will get a place in paradise.
Allah says that daughters are a great blessing. In case a daughter is born in someone’s house, that person should not get sad, instead he should rejoice because it is a Rahmat from Allah. Even our Prophet Muhammad P.B.U.H said that do not curse those who have daughters because I am the father of daughters of too.
People today think that daughters can be a big burden for them because they have to make arrangements for their wedding. They have a narrow view that daughters will be working for the person whom she will live with so why should they provide them with the best education or brought up, daughters are mostly abandoned because of this reason.

Status of Daughters in Islam

Allah Almighty says in Noble Quran: “To Allah belong the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what He wills. He gives to whom He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent” (Quran, 49:50). This Ayah of Holy Quran shows that Allah Almighty has the right or will to give whatever He wants to whom He wants to give. Allah is the One, based on His ultimate wisdom, who grants whomever He wills sons and daughters. He grants sons only to whomever He wills and daughters only to whomever He wills.

Prophet Muhammad (SAW) had 4 daughters and was of the opinion that raising daughters were considered as sacred in Islam. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said in one of His hadith about the upbringing of daughters in these words:  “If someone has three daughters and is patient with them and clothes them from his wealth, they will be a shield against Fire for him.”

Such honouring of daughters is the complete opposite of how people were accustomed to dealing with females in the pre-Islamic era, when they would degrade women and consider them a part of their wealth, and if news of a baby girl would come to any of them, it would be as if he was hit by a thunderstorm; Allah Says (what means): {And when one of them is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face becomes dark, and he suppresses grief. He hides himself from the people because of the ill of which he has been informed. Should he keep it in humiliation or bury it in the ground? Unquestionably, evil is what they decide.} [Quran 16:58-59]

It is said that some enemies of Qays ibn ‘Aasim At-Tameemi, who was a pre-Islamic Arab, attacked his premises and captured his daughter. Later, one of these enemies married her. After some time, the clan of Qays and that of his enemies reconciled, so they gave this daughter of the freedom to go back to her father or remain with her husband, and she preferred to stay with her husband. At that point, Qays took a pledge upon himself to bury alive any new daughter that he would receive, and the Arabs imitated him after that. It was, therefore, this man who introduced this evil practice, and thus he will shoulder his own sin as well as the sin of all those who did it thereafter.

One of the Companions  may Allah be pleased with him who had killed his daughter in the era that preceded Islam narrated his story: “We would worship idols in the pre-Islamic era and kill our daughters. I had a daughter, who, when she was old enough to comprehend and talk, would rejoice whenever she saw me and would immediately respond. One day, I called her and told her to follow me, so she did, until we reached a well that belonged to my tribe. I then took her by her hand and threw her in the well, and the last thing I heard her cry was: ‘O father! O father!'” [Ad-Daarimi]

During the era that preceded Islam, there were two methods that people used to kill their daughters:

  • At the time of the delivery of the child, a man would order his wife to give birth next to a hole dug in the ground; if the newborn was a male, she would return home with him, otherwise, she would throw her into the pit and bury her alive, or

     

  •  When the daughter reached six years of age, the man would tell his wife to adorn and perfume her, then he would take her to a well in the desert and tell her to look down into the well; when she would do this, he would push her into it from behind.

There were some men among these people who would forbid such acts, such as Sa’sa’ah ibn Naajiyah At-Tameemi, who would go to those attempting to kill their daughter offering money to ransom their lives.

There are people nowadays who share these same pre-Islamic beliefs; if they are granted only girls, which is of course something decreed only by Allah, they become angry, discontent and grieved.

With the advent of Islam, the darkness of that era vanished and Allah enjoined kindness, love and compassion towards girls. Taking good care of girls was encouraged, as was giving them special attention in the process of their upbringing. In fact, Islam has designated a special reward for raising them that is not granted for raising sons. Anas  may Allah be pleased with him reported that the Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said: “He who raises two daughters until their puberty will be with me in Paradise like this”, and he symbolized the proximity by showing two of his fingers with a slight gap between them.” [Muslim]

`Aa’ishah  may Allah be pleased with her related: “A woman by the name of Jameelah came to me with her two daughters. She asked me for charity but found nothing with me except a date, which I gave her. She divided it between her two daughters and ate nothing herself; then, she got up and left. After this, the Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) came, so I narrated this story to him; he  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said: “He who is involved (in the responsibility) of (nurturing) daughters and is generous to them, will have them as a fortification for himself against the Hellfire.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] In another narration of this incident, `Aa’ishah  may Allah be pleased with her related: “A poor woman came to me with her two daughters. I gave her three dates; she gave each of them a date and was about to eat the third one when one of her daughters asked her for it, so she divided it between her two daughters and ate nothing herself, and I liked what she did. After this, the Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) came, so I told him what she did, and he  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said: ‘Allah obligated Paradise for her due to this date, and (also) freed her from Hell.’” [Muslim]

Pay close attention to wording of the following narration: The Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said: “He who is tested by (the guardianship) of daughters….” Why did he  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) use the word: “…tested…”? He said it because raising them is a responsibility and a test from Allah to see how His slave would act: Will he be kind to them? Will he raise them correctly?

The nature of this responsibility was further clarified in other narrations, such as: “If he patiently feeds them and endows them with clothing …” [Ibn Maajah], and: “…Provides for them and marries them off…” [At-Tabaraani], and: “…Properly raises them and fears Allah in the manner in which he deals with them.” [At-Tirmithi]

This is what is required when dealing with daughters: kindness, which results in Paradise, as the Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said: “Whoever Allah has given two daughters and is kind towards them, will have them as a reason for him to be admitted into Paradise.” And: “Whoever Allah has given three daughters and he perseveres through raising them, will have them as a shield for him from the Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection.

A daughter is a great bounty and an honour granted by Allah, Imam Al-Hasan  may Allah have mercy upon him said: “Girls are a source of reward and sons are a blessing; rewards are in one’s favour (on the Day of Judgement) whereas one will be held accountable for blessings.”

Thus, it is incorrect to believe that one has been humiliated by being granted a girl; rather it is an honour, a bounty and a gate towards Paradise. Daughters are a great responsibility to rear, and entail greater expenditure, and this is why the reward for raising them correctly is greater than that for a son.

Once, one of the leaders of the believers was receiving people when a small daughter of his entered the room, so he kissed her; a Bedouin was also in attendance and saw this, so he mentioned daughters in a very evil manner. A wise man who was also present witnessed all of this and therefore said: “O leader of the believers! Do not listen to him. I swear by Allah, that it is they (i.e., girls) who stay up to care for the sick in the family, who show mercy towards the elders, and who stand next to men during hardships.”

A man was granted a baby girl, so he became angry and isolated himself from his wife for a long time, and after few months, he overheard his wife reciting the verse (what means): {…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you…} [Quran 2:216]

How many girls have been far more merciful and beneficial to their parents than their brothers? How many times has a son been a source of grief for his parents, to the point that they wished he was never born?

Why do we raise this topic now? It is due to the vicious attacks on the Muslims under the pretext of defending ‘women’s rights’ which is in reality an evil attempt to play on the emotions of women so that they will become rebellious towards their fathers and husbands, and to encourage them to leave their homes and demand their ‘freedom’. This is a gate towards evil and immorality which gradually attracts women and then traps them in prohibitions. One cause of girls falling into this is people neglecting their daughters and undermining their rights, which makes them easily fall into the traps of the hypocritical writers and columnists, male and female, who wish to see corruption prevail.

It is enough of an honour for girls that the Prophets, may Allah exalt their mention, had daughters and that most of the children of our beloved Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) were daughters, namely: ZaynabRuqayyahUmm Kalthoom and Faatimah

Rights and Duties of Daughters

Islam came into being and granted rights to women as a daughter, sister, and wife. Islam also created some responsibilities for them which are mentioned below:

  • Islam gave equal rights to women as men and describe that there is no discrimination against them.
  • Islam gave them rights of education. They can get an education just like men and can also work for their family.
  • They have right to their father’s property. Her share is half of her brother’s share in the property.
  • She has a right of Khula if she is not satisfied with her marriage and husband.
  • Islam gave them right to receive love and best maintenance from parents, brother, and husband.
  • A daughter always belongs to the paternal family. Marriage does not break this bond. The Islamic social order makes detailed arrangements for fair treatment of the daughter.
  • Taking care of them, educating them, liberating them and training them for tomorrow and a better life all comes under the responsibility of parents to their daughters.
  • They have the right to choose her husband. The father is not allowed to oblige her to marry a certain person without her wish.
  • Islam gave her right to speak and express her views and ideas in front of the public.
  • Anas (RA) reported that the Prophet (SAW) said: “He who raises two daughters until their puberty will be with me in Paradise like this” and he symbolized the proximity by showing two of his fingers with a slight gap between them.” (Muslim)
  • Daughter has a responsibility or duty to cover herself properly to live safely in the society.
  • She has a duty to keep the dignity of herself.
  • She has to take care of her family.
  • She has to loyal to her husband after getting married.
  • She has to be in limits when it’s a matter of Na-mahram.

These were some rights and duties of daughters according to religion Islam that every Muslim should know and fulfill. If someone wants to know about the honor of daughters then it is enough of an honor for girls that the Prophets (SAW), had daughters and that most of the children of our beloved Prophet (SAW) were daughters. So when you have a daughter don’t get upset instead be happy and celebrate this joy with all your family members and friends as daughters are the blessing of Allah Almighty. May Allah protect all our daughters and sister and blessed them with all the happiness of the world. Ameen!

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